Dating Tips for the un-hipster: splitting the bill
Why is it so many people think the way in which dindin is paid for shows how the date went? Social expectations are real forces when you're dating.
If a man really enjoyed your company he'll insist on paying, though honestly even if he didn't it is rude of him to suggest letting you pay. Sound like a familiar concept? Both genders are taught pretty early on the simple rules of dating but the message so often gets lost in translation.
Poem: Lapsing, lapsing onto the line
Matter and form, never stayed within the lines
Aren't I special, didn't have to, didn't need to
Follow the line, drug along to the near-far away
All of you loved, loved, loved them all so much
Me, we, me never loved like that
Like the world was leaving, headed out the door
Say your goodbyes now, say my I love yous
To them all, to every last beat
Let me, let me, let me take you down to them
It only takes, only take, only takes
A little bit of peace, peace will make you free
Lapsing, lapsing onto the line
I like to think of the latter part of our lives as a Third Act, one which grows with us and is a culmination of all we have been and are becoming. The final act in a play is the most important one. It determines whether the rest of the play was worthwhile and is the final impression we take with us after the show's curtains go down.
As we get older things shift and change like sand on the beach. But something that should never change is dedication to taking care of yourself. As men get over the big Four-O their needs and health concerns change. Below is a small list of helpful herbal remedies for common health concerns men over 40 may already have or are interested in keeping in check.
By 2010 more than one-third of our American children and adolescents were overweight or obese. As 2013 begins in full Childhood obesity is a growing concern for all families, regardless of region or class. Helping our children have longer life expectancies and a better quality of life in adulthood starts with getting them exercising and eating right, two things not often all that easy for over stressed parents on time crunches.
Poem: Misshapen Breaks
This little heart, misshapen as it may be, breaks
For the letters you still keep
Her hand betraying who should have stayed
And it wasn't, no sweetheart, it wasn't me
Shouldn't stay, linger over the body and we betray
What was good, a spark and it's out before the flame even takes
She should have stayed, for you and for the end of the alphabet
Avoiding the Burn: a guide for pale girls and guys
Santa Barbara Shoreline Sunsets. Photo Pictorial of the SoCal sunset over shoreline bean in Santa Barbara.
It is wedding planning time or maybe you just love looking at pretty dresses (which, really, just shocks us at I Cit). Sleeves look great on women of all shapes, it can soften the harsh white tone on pale skin and cover arms we're sensitive about all while making us look regal and lovely for our big day.
A geek at heart? A socially awkward extrovert? Well most of us geeks fall somewhere between those lines. So for all the lovable geeks out there who need a little loving we thought to put together a fun and helpful list of sites, ideas and words of wisdom to help along a little nerd love.
Hipster Hating Cartoons from I Citizen. Dog's understand all too well that sometimes the treat is just too close to see.
Happiness is found when we stop looking without, hoping blindly to discover or be discovered by joy. It happens for most when we stop the need to look within the bottomless self and learn to Be, with a capital B. Joy, or that intangible ability to live with grace does not come without nor can it come from within, Happiness can only truly Be. It is a way of life, the movement forwards while never needing to be forwards.
Who goes to Portland in the winter? Crazy people that's who and lucky for you you've got a rather crazy travel writer at hand to photograph the chilly yet tasty goodness that is Portland's Downtown in January.
There is, by the nature of differences between men and women's communication, near constant confusion for men about what women mean compared to what they say. A large part of bridging the language gap is to understand how much of what women say is the in emotion of the moment. Many men are more logic and problem solving based in their thinking, women feel what they think and while both come from a place of logic it can be a hard overlap...
How valuable is happiness in your life? Go ahead, put a dollar amount on it.
Here is a shocker, sometimes spending money to save time is not the best way to maximize our happiness. It can be a real benefit to our lives to save money and gain not just more time, but better use of our limited time. In a world where we feel we have fewer and fewer economic options we can decide how to allocate our time, what we do when we're not working to put food in the fridge. For some the answer is outsourcing tasks and paying for free time. For many others the best choice is to spend time not money and gain a happy, well balanced life and bank account.
I Citizen Mag continues our cartoon series of hipster hating cartoons.
Poem: Dark Velvet
Dark velvet, baby it covers the eyes and makes it all good
Descends and finds a way to be, perfect and content
Bitterly content is the sweetest way to burn
Been burning since you came into this place
Tea can be a good place to start during the cold weather when your stomach begins to rebel from all the rich food and long nights. Try to avoid putting sweeteners into the tea but if you really need some sweetness try local honey, which will help your immune system and not be as hard on your blood sugar.
Depression is a serious issue for many people in our country and yet struggles with depression can still be very hard to treat and discuss with others. Once you realize that depression has a hold of you beginning the process of figuring out an effective treatment
I Citizen has found some great pieces to add to your get-outta-the-snow kit for this winter. From airplane friendly food containers to a hot jacket sure to help you get that flight attendant's attention and a hat for those topical destinations (no cabana boys included unfortunately).
Insomnia is one of those things you don't think about until you haven't slept for a week and are starting to nod off while driving to work or sitting in bed at four AM hoping you'll just pass out and not wake up for a day or two. So hopefully before you get to duct taping your eyeballs closed here are a few helpful suggestions to naturally get some rest.
This is an on going column for I Citizen on abuse and the process to heal for both Women and Men. 1 in 3 women will be abused in some form in their lifetime. Emotional abuse can be one of the hardest to heal from because it leaves no outwardly showing battle scares. These articles address the healing process and the signs and systems abusers use to control the abused.
The art of the abuser is to hide in plan sight, while everyone feels it is too impolite to intervene. We allow abusers to exist and thrive because of a social code of silence. The deafening quiet on this subject should chill us all to the bone. So many women are torn down, hurt and killed by abusers and yet still so little is done.
Hipster hating cartoons continues.
Across from a garage and a less than mellow area of Goelta sits one of my favorite spots for lunch in Goleta. The Goodland Market makes a few dishes for lunch each day, homemade lemonade and a muffin or two. The sandwiches are simple but filled with flavor, really more bits and bops of taste than you'd expect.
Haven't I seen your heart ache before
That sparkle from the dark, that texture without touch
Knowing without seeing, loving without fearing
Oh aren't we sure by now that these aren't new days to us
On the boarder of China there exists a curious and often fought over peninsula, Korea. The last time that the peninsula, of numerous ethnicities, tribes and kingdoms was unified under one State was in 1897 by the Korean Empire. This Empire was short lived, however, falling thirteen years later to the expansionism of the Japanese Empire, a growing power then promising to be one of the major political and militar
New England photo pictorial of gravestones and grave yards.
As someone with severe insulin resistance I try and often fail to eat a little better than I should. That can be complicated by assignments involving food but more than not I try to keep healthy food around me to offset any wildly delicious goodies I may have from time to time.
The Lightkeepers is a sweet period film set in the summer of 1912 in Cape Cod. The director clearly loves his locations as he films them beautifully. This movie is worth a stream just for the excellent footage of the sea rolling
New cartoons from I Citizen.
Ayami Tyndall's Tech Line- Android Solutions
I still remember the early days of the Internet, when monitors were thicker than a mattress, mice still had balls, and RSS was the coolest new thing on the block. But now, with laser mice and flex-screens, RSS is a standard part of any website, and for good reason. A feed is much easier to track than a website, but even the feeds
Witty (we hope) cartoons from I Citizen Mag.
If you're like millions of people you will be spending at least part of the festive season with family, in a strange environment for your pet pooch. Taking an extra bit of notice to care for your dog in a new area, with the ever present holiday party dangers of too much rich food and poisonous treats we people love, is an easy way to make sure your buddy is healthy and alive for the new year.
Happy Meal is a web show about the comedic dangers of participating in reality TV cooking shows. An ex coke head, an overworked food critic and a dish washer come together to film the first episode of their reality show on cooking. Nothing seems able to go right and no one will ever get along after their first day on set.
Acne, pimples and Rosacea caused bumps are painful, bothersome and not always easy to overcome. Women have lots of help with covering and treating acne. There are many suggestions, tips and even makeup if all else fails. Here are some none-makeup, all natural and easy to work in at home suggestions for men.
How to buy Gifts for Women
First rule of gift giving is that you should get as much joy from giving as she does from getting. Gift giving does not need to be stressful or cause issues in your relationships. We all know girls who get angry about being given the wrong gift.
Those, those that couldn't didn't
Strewn with the enemy, hard to tell them by the form; perhaps it's more in the eyes
The hammer fell and luck was had but not by them
We were the victors, but the cost was the reason for victory
Gave the haul to save our ship's cargo and yet no one sinks
Red dawned and we washed our hands
I love finding little places like Third Coast, it is not expected but is so appreciated to have quality, healthy food while traveling. Local people making a hard go of a great cafe is worth support both from the community and travelers just going through town.
Every story has an ending
Some are comedy
Some turn to tragedy
Every, every story has an ending
Ours just came so soon
The easy question: just what is it? 3D printing is the the common, journalist's name for a new technology that is technically known more accurately as “additive manufacturing(AM).” That name may sound daunting, but with a moment's thought it becomes quite self explanatory. Most traditional manufacturing, known as subtractive manufacturing, is the process of taking a quantity of raw material and refining it into a final product. A clear example
Summer cartoons from I Citizen.
Saving a regular, dependable part of their income each month will help them have the resources to invest when times are good and the economy is strong and also give them the ability to get through the rough times when our global economy looks like a match house on fire.
I Don't know, no I don't know why there isn't any magic in the sky anymore
But for you, my dear, I would paint the stars anew
I would cast the bucket on the canvass and bring you to life
Let the moon hang off your neck, let the oceans glow in your eyes
Strip the lava from the earth and place it in your heart, beating as it were
I don't know, no I can't seem to see
Why there isn't any magic anymore
In the sky, in the night sky
But for you, my dear
But for you, my dearest of them all
Every single one
I Citizen shows you around Halifax's Harbor in July.
Paris is thought of as a hub of foodie goodness and the chocolate crawls I've been on have not disappointed. Macaroons that taste like a rose-petal, chocolate with lemongrass and sugar, soft and nutty chocolate bites and orange flavored truffles made with the hand of a true artist. Go for your own Chocolate Crawl next time you find yourself in the city that has inspired more love stories with sweets than even my kitchen.
Recently I got the very cool chance to go RV-ing from Ohio to Vermont; I Citizen was looking for new TravFan pieces and because of this lovely oddity of being a writer I had the opportunity to also cover the ins and outs of an RV road trip.
Allow us all to agree that allergies suck big time. But they really, really suck when they can kill you from an asthma attack. It's no easy matter during the highest allergy seasons for people with more sensitive lungs.
Gemma's Film Review: Affinity
This odd film follows a wealthy woman after the death of her father as she finds footing by helping at a women’s jail. Although the Victorian setting
How do you love yourself when everywhere you turn it seems someone or something is telling you you’re not quite good enough? Finding inner joyfulness in today’s world can seem so overwhelmingly energy draining that many of us just give up and go on with our lives without ever committing to living a conscious life.
Funny cartoons from I Citizen
School is back in and that means our summer diets of fresh berries and summer squash go the wayside of sugary treats and fall flavored candies. For the more discerning graduate student I've found Tobago mini wrapped bars in milk and dark chocolate. For the professor's Saturday mornings I've got chocolate pearls for making hot coco as the leafs turn ruby and rust.
With every good RV trip it a makes it an even better journey to add in a little thing to do, an adventurous task to be followed through on during the whole trip. Mine was decided as the cross country ice cream hunt, or ICH.
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